Comments on better than hamlet: Twenty-Something Crisis

You should read/watch Fight Club. Chucks take on t...

2006-07-27T17:44:00.000+02:00

You should read/watch Fight Club. Chucks take on the corporate world is very entertaining.

Thanks for writing this Emily! I am excited to hav...

2005-10-17T20:04:00.000+02:00

Thanks for writing this Emily! I am excited to have stumbled upon your blog. My own "twenty-something crisis" prompted me to start a nation-wide research campaign and eventually write a book that is out now: 20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-Life Woman's guide to Balance and Direction. I wrote it for women because I think there are marked differences between what men and women go through in their twenties. Plus, being a woman, I figured I’d write to what I knew! I can emphatically say, you are not alone, I meet and talk to so many twenty-something’s with similar issues on their minds. At 29, I can say my crisis has wound down and now I work to help other twenty-something’s through theirs. Thanks for writing about this issue and for your humor about it! Please check out my website at www.20something20everything.com.

As a twenty-something myself (NO, you may not ask)...

2005-08-31T15:12:00.000+02:00

As a twenty-something myself (NO, you may not ask) I sympathize with the image dilemma. It's vitally important to tread that line between uberchic and coolly professional. Personally, I like to dress conservatively at all times - I use accessories that hint at my personality.

Once, I was buying earrings on a whim (is there any other way?) and asked a friend how they looked on me. She hesitated, then said as tactfully as she could, "I think those are the sort of earrings that don't look good on anybody." I grinned. They were definitely the earrings I wanted.

They are still among my most favorite accessories of all time, and I wear them whenever I'm feeling sassy and unconventional.

Maybe, little Miss Missy, people would stay longer...

2005-04-27T20:57:00.000+02:00

Maybe, little Miss Missy, people would stay longer than 5 seconds if you re-posted every blue moon! Ma'am. hee hee...
Have a good one!

I can identify with what you're saying, only from ...

2005-04-23T13:34:00.000+02:00

I can identify with what you're saying, only from a different gender-point. My 20's crisis came when I hit 21 and I realised not only do I not know what to do with my life, but I became so disillusioned with work, and people and everything. As far as I'm aware, every one of my friends is going through the same thing.
All through school, we're warned about how bad puberty will be, nobody ever tells you "oh yeah, in your twenties, you'll lose momentum and wonder why you should ever bother doing anything."
Which sucks.
Anyway, I'm better. Roll on 40's! At least then I'll be able to buy a penis-replacement motorbike!

Statcounter (and sitemeter) only know when people ...

2005-04-22T08:56:00.000+02:00

Statcounter (and sitemeter) only know when people click on a link in your blog (or when someone reloads a page). So if someone comes by and takes hours to read a post - perhaps in an attmept to learn english through the reading of a post - but never clicks again after loading the page the first time, statcounter will register that as less than 5 seconds (or whatever the shortest amount of time is).

I say this not because it's all that interesting, but because writing comments is one way to avoid thinking about how I'm 26 and not sure what the hell I'm going to be doing in, say, 2-3 months.

My solution to this whole being 25 thing has been ...

2005-04-22T07:56:00.000+02:00

My solution to this whole being 25 thing has been to remain in the limbo that is grad school until I'm "discovered" and never have to work again. Which means I should definitely be spending more time in old school piano bars chatting up the clientele... We can work on that this summer.

We're in the same club, Emily. I'm 25, finally don...

2005-04-21T18:05:00.000+02:00

We're in the same club, Emily. I'm 25, finally done with school, in the first year of my first job, and am thinking, "WTF? Is this it?"

So, I made a list of things that I need to do before 30. I think over the next few months, I'll have it pared down to a handful of difficult, but definitely accomplishable tasks that will keep me from becoming a total tool.

This crisis you speak of. It has a name! Quarter L...

2005-04-21T16:23:00.000+02:00

This crisis you speak of. It has a name! Quarter Life Crisis. Yep!!! There is a website and everything, even a book!!! Do a Google Search. It's quite a phenomenon!!!! I'm gonna be 29 in a few days *sigh* I still don't feel like I've overcome this crisis yet. I hope what "the michael" has said is true.

God, finally, welcome. You've been hippying-it all...

2005-04-21T16:01:00.000+02:00

God, finally, welcome. You've been hippying-it all about since graduation.

JK, my personal rebellion is giant earrings and awesome shoes. But that was only necessary at Old Marketing Job with Other Older Twenty-Somethings. At New University Job with Sassy Southern Eccentric Ladies, they think everything I do is awesome and envy me my youth.

In other news, SAO later?

I don't know...to make me believe that people actu...

2005-04-21T13:54:00.000+02:00

I don't know...to make me believe that people actually read this stuff?

(Statcounter tells me that 38% of people visiting my blog stay less than five seconds.)

ditto.. so, why am I posting?

2005-04-21T13:15:00.000+02:00

ditto.. so, why am I posting?

well i had a good laugh reading this, but havenoth...

2005-04-21T13:08:00.000+02:00

well i had a good laugh reading this, but havenothing to add that would be bright or insightful or even slightly witty.

Nice read.

I don't consider myself in a crisis, but I surely ...

2005-04-21T10:09:00.000+02:00

I don't consider myself in a crisis, but I surely do feel a bit out of place most of the time. Probably because it's been four and a half years since I worked in a non-seasonal job (and in those last four and a half years, the lame seasonal jobs I would do occasionally in the US add up to a whopping six months).

The hole in my resume only widens. Plus, this whole going back to school thing? I will be 25. 25. 25, in a country where "going back to school" is a concept that nearly doesn't exist, and where I will be mixing it up with kids who still live with their parents, have never worked in their lives, and probably have an allowance.

On a side note, I am absolutely in love with the shoes in this photo. They look so forties!

If you think it's bad now, just wait until you rea...

2005-04-21T08:35:00.000+02:00

If you think it's bad now, just wait until you reach thirty. After 30 I became "suit and tie guy" or, alternatively, "dude in a corporate monkey suit". However, that was nothing compared to the physical repercussions...but I digress. You should experience the "beauty" of 30 on your own...

I've been very busy (I didn't even read your post ...

2005-04-21T01:57:00.000+02:00

I've been very busy (I didn't even read your post :(

I'll post eventually. I'm trying to finish my application to the Art Center and I've been lagging way too much. There's also been sickness in my family, I started a post about it but haven't finished.

C'est la vie non? Un de ces jours, je vais ecrire encore mais pour l'instant, c'est tout.

Now, back to work...

Well... according to the Michael, the thirties is ...

2005-04-20T23:55:00.000+02:00

Well... according to the Michael, the thirties is marked by amnesia.

Wow, it is good to know one is not alone!Actually,...

2005-04-20T23:52:00.000+02:00

Wow, it is good to know one is not alone!
Actually, there are other ways to tackle with this transition period: take your deepest voice, and speak very loud of your work with friends (do not forget to tell you work very hard). At the moment I did not manage to do it on my own, but as far as I can see, I works really well for some people...

I can tick on my crisis list:
- Oedipus complex : done
- teenage crisis : done
- twenty-something crisis : in process
- midlife crisis
- (male) menopause

Hey, there is a hole between twenty-something and midlife crisis. Hum... Peaceful for a while? But wait, it may be done on purpose to deal with our futur children's own crisis!

What, does it seem like I'm freaking out?!?!

2005-04-20T23:14:00.000+02:00

What, does it seem like I'm freaking out?!?!

Relax, Em, the experience will come, one way or an...

2005-04-20T22:21:00.000+02:00

Relax, Em, the experience will come, one way or another, whether you like it or not. You are going to forget 65% of everything you learned, ditch another 15% cause you finally realize it was BS all along, and rearrange what's left to suit where you need to go.
Fashion, believe it or not, will not rule you, and when 30 hits you, you will not remember living three decades. However, you will be fully prepared for 40, and until 50 sneaks up with you, you will fully understand the best years of your life.